Friendsgiving Harvest: Grateful, Joyful, Thankful (November Cash Giveaway)

Friendsgiving Harvest: Part 3

As promised I have more giveaway opportunities! This time to celebrate “Friendsgiving”, I have teamed up with “The Kids Did I”‘ and “The Mommy Island”, along with numerous amazing bloggers to once again offer the “Hello November” $250 Cash Giveaway! We could all use a little extra cash in our pockets Christmas shopping, right? Then scroll on down, read the rules, and enter away! Good Luck!

HELLO NOVEMBER! Wow! I can not believe we’re nearing the end of another year. It’s the season for love and giving but also stress. Let us knock some of that weight off of your shoulders by giving you a chance to win BIG during our Hello November $250 Cash Giveaway! You have the option of choosing between $250 PayPal Cash OR a Gift Card of choice! This event was organized by The Kids Did It & The Mommy Island and sponsored by fabulous bloggers, authors, and Etsy shop owners! Pull up a chair and carve your way through the daily entries!

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Giveaway Details:
ONE entrant will be selected from the entry form to win $250 PayPal cash OR a $250 gift card of choice. Open for entry WW, 18 years and older from 11/01/18 at 12:01 a.m. ET thru 11/30/18 at 11:59 p.m. ET. No purchase necessary. Void where prohibited. A winner will be chosen after/around December 1, 2018. The winner will have 24 hours to respond to notification email to claim their prize or a new winner will be selected. See Rafflecopter for official rules. The Kids Did It & The Mommy Island ARE responsible for sending the winner their prize via PayPal or e-gift card. The winner has the option of choosing between PayPal and an e-gift card of choice. Prize may be less than $250 if you choose a gift card with fees. Any fees associated with PayPal are the responsibility of the winner and will be deducted from the total prize amount.

A huge THANK YOU to these fabulous bloggers, without which, this giveaway would not be possible. Please note the first entry is to show them love on one of their posts below and is NOT optional. All entries are verified.

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Friendsgiving Harvest: Grateful, Joyful, Thankful (Gracious Giveaway Hop)

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Welcome back to the second part of our “Friendsgiving Harvest”! I am so excited you decided to join me again because today I have a special treat!

That’s right!

Who wants to win some prizes??

If The Glasses Fit has teamed up with Dede @ Savings in Seconds and many more amazing blogs for the Gracious Giveaway Hop. Sooo many amazing prizes are being given away during this giveaway hop, including tickets to Cirque Dreams Holidaze by Says Me Says Mom and an Incredibles 2 DVD Giveaway hosted by NannytoMommy.

If The Glasses Fit is giving away a $10 Starbucks E-card and a $5 Barnes and Nobles E-card just in time for a little after Thanksgiving or Friendsgiving relaxing!

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So scroll on down, click on Entry-Form to enter my giveaway (starts at 8pm CST November 12 and ends 11:59 pm CST November 17) and don’t forget to HOP on over to enter all the other amazing giveaways!

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Friendsgiving Harvest: Grateful, Joyful, Thankful

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Autumn is in the air, the leaves are falling into magical piles of colorful fun, and the wiff of spice is on my nose.

Sigh…

I have to admit, I love this season as much as I love the holidays that accompy Autumn, and that is why I have an amazing ongoing Thanksgiving post.

That’s right! You weren’t reading that wrong! I have some amazing Thanksgiving table decor ideas to share with you, along with recipes that you will defintely need to make, followed by some amazing contests!

Win-win right?

Ummmm YES!

Over the next two weeks, I am going to be cramming in as much Friendsgiving related posts as I possibly can!

So hang on because it is going to be a whirlwind of a ride!

Okay, okay, I’m going but I am going to leave you with some table decor ideas. Whether you plan to host your feast inside or out, this simple table decor is sure to impress!

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Feminist or Not?

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We all have skeletons in our past. Some of us try tremendously harder than others to keep them buried in the back of the closet, behind our high school prom dresses, jeans we swear we will fit in again someday and shoes that we knew would never see the light of day, yet they looked so cute in the display window.

Those are the skeletons that have the most significant impact when they finally surface.

As women today, there is a massive push for feminism. Believe me; I am all for “show the boobs,” “equality for women,” “yes, you better pay me as much as you pay the man beside me with the same qualifications.” However, I am also the woman who enjoys cleaning the house and having dinner ready for my family, baking pies from scratch, so my husband will post a picture to Instagram, and even allowing myself to come second in our relationship at times.

Does that make me a June Cleaver? A Stepford Wife? An Anti-feminist?

The answer is, not at all. It is because of those qualities that make me an equal to my spouse because when I am not cooking and cleaning for my family, he is. When I am not baking pies, it is because I don’t want to, and when I am not coming in second in our relationship, it is because I am first.

However, when do I need to take a stand for my gender?

When do I need to allow the skeletons to reveal themselves?

Are my skeletons going to cause more harm than good?

Moreover, are my motives all about feminism?

Right now, in our society, we have a major political spectacle going on, and I must ask myself why? I have tried to keep quiet and allow myself to fester with my own opinions, but my voice was demanding to be heard.
Maybe I am a feminist after all.

We have a very well-educated woman who is accusing a very well-educated and politically involved man of sexual assault when she was fifteen years old. I will be honest; I do not know who is telling the truth. We have a classic debate of “he said,” “she said,” and we will probably never know the whole truth unless one party decides to break.

You might be saying, “Well, if you were a true feminist you would believe the woman.”

Which I would answer, “Really, and why is that?” “Is it because I am a woman and I should stand with my gender?”, alternatively, “I guess I should stand behind this woman because as women we have never stretched to the truth ever, right?”

See I do not base my ideas, theories or opinions on gender, nor race, or sexual orientation. I find my thoughts and conclusions on morals, values, respect, and compassion.

I refuse to believe a woman that technically doesn’t seem to recall much about the “incident” or “misconduct” just because she is a woman, because let me tell you another story of sexual misconduct.

I was eighteen years old, naive young thing, living in a small town where there weren’t many people you didn’t know. I was not very confident in myself, plump was an understatement, but I did enjoy flirting with my guy friends. One day I went to one of those friend’s house to hang out. We were watching tv and looking at a magazine about car stereos because I was interested in getting a new one, (It was the 90’s the decade of low-riders, and loud bass systems, no judgment) when my friend asked me to come to his room to show me something. Now I will admit two things right here; first, I do not remember what he wanted to show me, and second, I was stupid to fall for that line.

When I walked in the room, he closed the door behind me and locked it. I panicked. He then took it upon himself to grab and start kissing me forcefully. The next thing I know we are on the bed, and he is trying to undress me, and I am saying no. At some point, I apparently made my point to him, and as soon as he let up just a tad, I jumped up, ran to the door, and got out of that house as fast as I could. I remember driving there, the sun shining and it being hot. I remember leaving there, the same as when I arrived. There may be a few moments that I don’t recall, but I do know the big events. I know who it was, where it was, and how it happened. I also know how I arrived and how I left. I was lucky.

The outcome could have been so much worse for me, as for many other women, but I do not feel I was sexually assaulted. I think that I was a victim of misconduct, a situation that could have resulted in sexual assault, but I do not own that title.

That title is saved for all the victims that didn’t have a voice, who wasn’t able to fight off their perpetrator, those who were afraid for their lives and for their innocence being taken from them.

NO, I will not allow myself to use their title, and neither should you. In fact, until this whole political spectacle, this was not an event I spoke of out loud. Not because I had blocked it from my mind, but because I was not a victim of a teenage boy raging hormones. Maybe I should have spoken out about it when it happened to ensure that it didn’t occur to anyone else, but the thing is, I knew it was just teenage hormones, not a man who was out to rape and violate me. So there is no reason to name names now unless I want to destroy his reputation, his marriage, and his family, which I do not.

So, no, I will not believe the woman just because I am a fellow woman. Maybe that does make me anti-feminist, but this I know, Eve deceived Adam in the garden and we have followed suit ever since.

a madness silenced:Persephone’s Daughters Lit Mag Contribution

I am so honored that my piece “a madness silenced” was chosen for issue 5 of Persephone’s Daughters, a lit magazine dedicated to empowering women who have experienced various forms of abuse and degradation.

As I was creating “a madness silenced”, I was consumed with how often we allow others to dictate our voice. How through times of abuse, degradation and even your own personal turmoil we create a madness inside of us and we silence our voice from speaking up instead of silencing the madness that is filling our soul.

We have to learn that if we silence the madness inside of us, then we have the freedom for our voices to be heard allowing us to heal, or grow depending on the situation, or maybe both.

We don’t have to let the madness drown us, we can rise above together.

a madness silenced

silent screams but no one

listens

paired with icy fingers no one

holds

while fear squeezes my lungs of

air

and momentarily pauses of breath

increase

to lingering minutes on the

wall

causing a burning need for survival

inside

leaving my mind faultless of

warning

from the madness overtaking my life’s

failures

until trembling limbs descend into

darkness

and the indifference to my suffering is

silenced

#litmag #poetry #empoweringwomen #persephonesdaughters #abuse #degradation #womenempowerment

Hello, It’s Me Again!

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Hello, it’s me again.
Sorry, I have been away, but sometimes you just have to take a sabbatical from yourself.
I know, I know that sounds like the most ludicrous thing ever, buts it’s true.
I have spent the past several months on a social media sabbatical, and even a sabbatical from my own writing to the world. During this time I have still been writing but just not sharing with everyone. I needed some time to write out my thoughts and feelings to find my direction again.
It’s been good the past 6 months. It’s helped me focus on what my next steps are and write some incredible poetry, some that I will share that has been published, and just find me again.
But it’s time to engage with the world again and I look forward to all it brings.

Victorian Valentine Blog Hop Giveaway

I must admit, I am a hopeless romantic. I am also a lover of British Literature. Blame Austen and Bronte I guess but all I know is Victorian Literature is a passion of mine.

We can thank the Victorian Era for making Valentine’s Day a thing, and to celebrate I have joined a group of amazing bloggers for the Victorian Valentine Blog Hop Giveaway.

Of course my giveaway prize has to fit the Victorian Era so I will be giving away a pair of Romantic Hurdy-Gurdies from Victorian Trading Co.

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Romantic Hurdy-Gurdies are miniature musical crank-boxes that will serenade to the tune of Swan Lake and Greensleeves. Dear imagery obtained from our century-old paper archives graces this pair of music boxes.

So I hope you will join with us and enter the blog giveaways linked below.

The event runs from Feb. 6 – 20, 2018.

Good luck!

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